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「兩個被現代社會訓練出來的自我匱乏個體，在變幻極速的世界中，衍生了被確認之強烈需要，但各種人際關係裏，似乎只有大眾媒體再現的『愛情』可以滿足這種需要，於是他們千方百計尋找愛侶。」 … 「我感覺到的是，大家似乎喪失了一種對他人存在狀態的感受能力。只會用一些好表面的反應去界定別人，而不是去了解，為何他在那個情景裏會做出這樣的反應？大家習慣了購買，付出然後換回報，會好難調節為沒有目的，就是想了解你，了解完之後無用㗎，就係了解咗一個人囉。如果感受不到這件事本身的價值，就無辦法，關係就會維持在大家搵對方來滿足自己願望的層次。」

如何愛 - Yahoo! 新聞香港

This empathetic bottom-up perspective is better than a lot of top-down commentary.

They did not seek out loneliness, but they accepted it as the price of their autonomy. The cowboys who set off to explore a seemingly endless frontier likewise traded away personal ties in favor of pride and self-respect. The ultimate American icon is the astronaut: Who is more heroic, or more alone? The price of self-determination and self-reliance has often been loneliness. But Americans have always been willing to pay that price.

Today, the one common feature in American secular culture is its celebration of the self that breaks away from the constrictions of the family and the state, and, in its greatest expressions, from all limits entirely. […]

We are now in the middle of a long period of shuffling away. In his 2000 book Bowling Alone, Robert D. Putnam attributed the dramatic post-war decline of social capital—the strength and value of interpersonal networks—to numerous interconnected trends in American life: suburban sprawl, television’s dominance over culture, the self-absorption of the Baby Boomers, the disintegration of the traditional family. The trends he observed continued through the prosperity of the aughts, and have only become more pronounced with time: the rate of union membership declined in 2011, again; screen time rose; the Masons and the Elks continued their slide into irrelevance. We are lonely because we want to be lonely. We have made ourselves lonely.

Is Facebook Making Us Lonely? - Magazine - The Atlantic

雖然Winnie講的是自信，但她不是充權令你有自信，而是以確認「你沒有自信」來墊高自己，來突顯自己的自信。切記，不要找有自信問題的人幫你解決自信心問題，因為她／他只會無時無刻用你來肯定她／他自己，犧牲的當然是你。

自信導師常常有一個奇怪的情況：他／她們總要無時無刻宣傳自己的自信，因為他／她們的自信，需要被注意來維生，一旦斷絕供應目光，他／她們首先死亡。也許，這才是最糟糕的情況，它不是沒自信，而是一種如公廁大卷筒廁紙薄的自信。

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their sense of mystery is deepened by contact with reality and their sense of reality is deepened by contact with mystery.

Flannery O’Connor, on why readers enjoy fiction.